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Establishing an Islamic Home – Birmingham Conference 2018 — December 27, 2018

Establishing an Islamic Home – Birmingham Conference 2018

The following set of lectures were taken from the recent Birmingham Winter Conference 2018 – ‘Establishing an Islamic Home’.

May Allaah preserve all our speakers: Abu Hakeem Bilaal Davis, Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq, Abu Khadeejah Abdul-Waahid, Abu Mu’aadh Taqweem Aslam, Shaikh Abdullah Al-Bukhari, Shaikh Ubaid al-Jaabiri

All lectures can be found in the following link:

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  1. Establishing An Islamic Household By Abu Muadh Taqweem حفظہ اللّٰہ
  2. Setting Fine Example By Abu Khadeejah حفظہ اللّٰہ
  3. Equality In Marriage By Abu Khadeejah حفظہ اللّٰہ
    Part 1
    Part 2
    Part 3
    Part 4
  4. Shielding Oneself & Family By Abu Iyaad حفظہ اللّٰہ
    Part 1
    Part 2
    Part 3
  5. Fatherly Advice Of Shaykh Fawzan By Abu Muadh Taqween Aslam حفظہ اللّٰہ
  6. Telelink With Shaykh Abdulah Al-Bukhaari حفظہ اللّٰہ
  7. The Messenger At Home By Abu Hakeem حفظہ اللّٰہ
  8. Importance Of Dua In Seeking Rectification By Abu Muadh Taqween Aslam حفظہ اللّٰہ
  9. Q and A’s Regarding Relationships Family and Schooling By Abu Khadeejah حفظہ اللّٰہ
  10. Shaykh Rabee حفظہ اللّٰہ Advice Birmingham Winter Conference
  11. Manners Taken From The Carriers Of The Qur’aan By Abdulilah Lahmami حفظہ اللّٰہ

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Ramadan Rewards, Activities and Preparation — June 2, 2016

Ramadan Rewards, Activities and Preparation

With Ramadhan around the corner, it’s the perfect time to start planning out how you will be spending your days in acts of worship as well as planning homeschool activities for the children inshaAllah. So with the help and inspiration of other homeschooling mothers themselves, we have gathered the following beneficial links. We hope you find them useful inshAllah:

Reward Charts for Fasting, Praying, Giving Charity +more:

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21 RAMADHAN Activities for children:

(Islamic background need to be double checked)

  1. Preschool Ramdhan Activity Book
  2. 49 Ways to get Children Involved in Ramadhan
  3. 30 Days of Good Deeds for a Ramadhan Jar
  4. Ramadhan Colouring Page
  5. 30 Day Ramadhan Activity. An Activity a Day. A Word from the Qur’an
  6. 30 Days of Kindness Free Printable
  7. Daily Salaah Chart
  8. Masjid Collages
  9. Ramadhan Calendar Ideas
  10. Mosque Silhouettes (Cutting and Sticking Activity)
  11. How to make Date Pops (Healthy Treat for the Kids)
  12. Dubai Cards – Printable
  13. Printable Ramadhan Board Game
  14. Juzz ‘Amma Workbook (Printable)
  15. Du’aa Posters
  16. Ramadhaan Sight Word Work (There are many others on the site)
  17. Ramadhan Games
  18. 5 Pillars of Islam Workbook (Preschool)
  19. Ramadhan Matching Bunting, Cards and Cake Toppers
  20. Ramadhan Good Deed Tree
  21. Ramadhan Date Gift Idea

Compiled by RaisingRayyaan


Preparation for Ramadhan:

  1. Quran Planner
  2. Books:
    a) Sittings In The Month Of Ramadan by Shaikh Salih Al-Fawzan
    b) Sittings During The Blessed Month Of Ramadan by Shaykh Muhammad Al-Uthaymeen
    c) Ramadan Has Arrived by Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Al-Abbad
  3. The Condition of the Salaf in Ramadhaan by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan
  4. The Fiqh of Ramadhaan – Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam
  5. Concerning Fasting – Advice for Ramadhaan 
  6. Does it Break the Fast (Image) and Important Q&As about Fasting (Image), The Rulings of Ramadhan Q&A (Article)
  7. Rewards for Dhikr CHART
  8. The Virtue and Excellence of The Last Ten Nights of Ramadhaan by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Rabee’ al-Madkhalee
  9. Concluding Ramadan and Regulations of ‘Eid by Abu Khadeejah
  10. Remaining Focused After Ramadan by Abdulilah Lahmami
  11. Ramadan Lessons Moosa Richardson
  12. Sahih Muslim: Explanation of the Book of Fasting – Ramadan Seminar – Abul-Abbaas Moosaa Richardson
    Abu Suhailah Umar Quinn &
    Abu Muhammad al-Maghribi
  13. Prepare Yourself for the Month of Mercy and Forgiveness: Ramadān – Khutbah by Abu Khadeejah
  14. Welcome Ramadān – Khutbah by Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis
  15. Utilise Ramadān To Rectify Yourselves by Abu Idrees
  16. Ramadan Is A Remedy For Diseases Of Heart – Khutbah By Hasan Somali
  17. Ramadan A Month Of Repentance! by Hasan Somali
  18. Ramadān Is A Period Of Happiness For The Believer – Khutbah by Abu Khadeejah
  19. Fasting in Ramadān According to the Sunnah – Lessons by Abu Khadeejah
  20. The Book of Fasting in Ramadān – from the explanation of Zād Al-Mustaqni’ – Series by Abu Khadeejah 2017
  21. Benefit From Ramadān Before it’s Over By Abu Hakeem
  22. Remaining Focused After Ramadān – Lecture by Abdulilah Lahmami
  23. How Muslims Should Celebrate Eid Day – Short lesson by Abu Khadeejah

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Advise to Fathers on Raising Children — May 13, 2016

Advise to Fathers on Raising Children

Shaykh Abdul-Azeez ibn Baaz

I have noticed, O eminent Shaykh, that there are many of the fathers who have been negligent in raising their children leaving them to engage in things which are of the highest level of detriment to them. Due to this, I seek from your eminence that you favor us by directing the fathers to give much importance to their children; especially in this time, may Allaah reward you with good.

In the name of Allaah the Most Merciful the Bestower of mercy; may prayers and peace from Allaah be upon Allaah’s Messenger, his family, his companions, and those who are guided with his guidance. As to what follows:
This which the questioner mentioned deserves attention, because watching over the children, males and female, and giving them attention and their Islamic cultivation is an affair which is from the most important matters.

The noble Prophet ﷺ said:
كلكم راعٍ وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته، فالرجل راع في أهل بيته ومسؤول عن رعيته، والأمير الذي ولي على الناس راعٍ ومسؤول عن رعيته، والمرأة راعية في بيت زوجها ومسؤولة عن رعيتها، والخادم راعٍ في مال سيده ومسؤول عن رعيته ثم قال: ألا وكلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته
fishingwithdadEach of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The man is a shepherd over his family and he is responsible for his flock. The Ameer who has been placed in charge of the people is a Shepherd, and he is responsible for his flock. The woman is a shepherd within the house of her husband and she is responsible for her flock. The servant is a shepherd over his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock. Then he said: Indeed each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. (Imaam Al-Bukhaaree reported it in his Saheeh as well as others.)
So this great Hadeeth indicates the obligation of giving importance to one’s flock. The greatest of responsibility in that is that of the Imaam who is over the people; and he is the Ameer of the Muslims and their Sultaan. It is obligatory upon him to watch over them regarding all that which contains their rectification and the safeguarding of their religion and giving attention to that which will benefit them in the Dunyaa as well as the hereafter in accordance to his ability and as much as he can. The greatest of that is to give attention to the religion so that they are upright upon it and that they cling to it; and that is by way of performing the obligatory duties and leaving the prohibited, as is obligatory upon everyone who is in charge of the affairs of the people to rules between them with the Sharee’ah of Allaah and to make them hold fast to the legislation of Allaah. And he is not to rule between them with other than the legislation of Allaah.

He is responsible for that as He, the Majestic and High, has stated:
فَوَرَبِّكَ لَنَسْأَلَنَّهُمْ أَجْمَعِيْنَ ٩٢ عَمَّا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ ٩٣

“So, by your Lord (O Muhammad ﷺ), We shall certainly call all of them to account, For all that they used to do.” (Al-Hijr 15:92-93)
Likewise, as in this authentic Hadeeth:
كلكم راعٍ وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته

“Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.”

So he who is placed in charge over the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. We ask Allaah to give the leaders of the Muslims Tawfeeq in all that which contains their rectification and the rectification of the all Muslims.
Likewise, every person is responsible for his household. So the father is responsible for his children and the mother is responsible for her children from the perspective of cultivating them Islamically and commanding them with the good and forbidding them from evil and making them cling to the truth and abandon that which opposes the legislation of Allaah. From that is the affair of the prayer; for it is the supporting pillar of Al-Islaam. So it obligatory upon the father to give attention to his children, and likewise the mother, so that they are upright upon the prayer and so that they safeguard it in the houses of Allaah along with the Muslims.

Allaah the Mighty and Majestic says:
حَافِظُواْ عَلَى الصَّلَوَاتِ والصَّلاَةِ الْوُسْطَى

“Guard strictly (five obligatory) As-Salawaat (the prayers) especially the middle Salat (i.e. the best prayer ‘Asr).” (Al-Baqarah 2:238)

And He, Glorified be He, said:

وَأَقِيمُواْ الصَّلاَةَ وَآتُواْ الزَّكَاةَ وَارْكَعُواْ مَعَ الرَّاكِعِينَ

“And perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), and give Zakât, and Irka’ (i.e. bow down or submit yourselves with obedience to Allaah) along with Ar-Raki’ûn.” (Al-Baqarah 2:43)
He, the Majestic and High, said:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواقُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
“O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones.” (At-Tahrim 66:6)
The parents are included in this.
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواقُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
“O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones.” (At-Tahrim 66:6)
Paying attention to the affair of the prayer is from the reasons for protection from the Fire, for both the parent and the child. Allaah said, addressing his Prophet ﷺ

وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا
“And enjoin As-Salât (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them.” (Ta-Ha 20:132)
The Prophet ﷺ said:

مروا أبناءكم بالصلاة لسبع واضربوهم عليها لعشر وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع
Command your children to pray at seven and beat them concerning it at ten; and separate them in the bed.

So the child, whether male or female, is to be commanded to pray when he reaches seven and beaten concerning it when he reaches ten. This is because at this point he has reached and drawn near to maturity. Then when he attains puberty is becomes individually obligatory and binding upon him; and he deserves, if he abandons it, to be commanded to repent; so if he repents then this is good otherwise he is killed by the leader of the Muslims. So the affair (of the prayer) is major. Hence, it is obligatory upon the fathers and the mothers, the elder brothers of the children, and their uncles to cooperate in this matter and strive hard in rectifying the children and cultivating them Islamically; and fro that is making them hold fast to the prayer and commanding them with it when they reach seven and beating them concerning it when they reach ten and fall short in that. Likewise, they are to be commanded with that which Allaah commands them with from righteousness toward their parents and safeguarding the tongue from abuse, cursing, and lying, and other than that from sins, from that which Allaah the Mighty and Majestic has prohibited. Likewise, that they are prohibited from consuming intoxicants and smoking so that they will not grow up upon this falsehood.

So it is obligatory upon the fathers and mothers to give attention to the children regarding that which benefits them in the Dunyaa and the hereafter, and it is upon them to prohibit them from that which Allaah the Mighty and Majestic has prohibited them from, so that they grow up with a righteous upbringing and so that they will be upright upon the religion of Allaah. So when they reach puberty they will know that which is obligatory upon them and what they are prohibited from and they cultivated upon doing god and upon leaving off evil; then their father, their brother, their mother, and whoever played a role in this good will have the likes of their reward, as the noble Prophet ﷺ said:
من دل على خير فله مثل أجر فاعله

He who directs to good will have the likes of the reward of the one who does it.
This is from the bounty of Allaah the glorified and High. We ask Allaah, on behalf of all, for Tawfeeq and guidance.

Translated by Raha ibn Donald Batts


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How the Salaf Raised Their Children — February 25, 2016

How the Salaf Raised Their Children

On the subject of raising children, Ali ibn Abi Taalib (Radhi Allahu ‘anhu) said

“Play with them for the first 7 years (of their life); then teach them for the next 7 years; then advise them for the next 7 years (and after that).”

How the Salaf Raised Their Children
First 7 Years – Play with them
In the first 7 years, your goal is to build a strong connection with your child. This is the foundation, the base from which your relationship with them grows. If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging.
If you have young children, this (first 7 years) is the time to roll up your sleeves and invest, heavily, in yours and their future. In fact, you will be rewarded for all the righteous progeny that survives you, not just children, until the Day of Judgement. Play with your children, teach them Islam, teach them to have the best of manners but make the learning easy and don’t be harsh with them.

7-14 Years – Teach them
Once children reach 7, they are ready to learn. This is the time they are sponges, ready to soak up anything and everything you tell them, teach them, show them, and do in front of them. If you built that solid foundation in ages 0-7, they are now more than willing and happy to learn from you.

This is the time to teach them everything — Aqeedah, halaal and haraam, fiqh, all the things they need to know to survive throughout their life. Qur’an and seerah are also very important; as one prominent tabi’een said, “we learned seerah (frequently and in details) from our parents the way we learned Qur’an.”

Tell your children to study the deen first and then they can do their homework afterwards because the deen is the priority. Read and memorise the deen every day.

We should attach our hearts to the ulama (Scholars) and we should see them and take our children to see them, before they pass away.

Make your children tulaab and take them to the masjid and keep them from bad company. When they go to the masjid, tell them to always take their notepads even if there’s no lesson on, just in case they hear a benefit. You shouldn’t just leave them on the streets or schools, rather you give them Tarbiyyah of the Sunnah and the staying away from Bidah. You shouldn’t always keep them inside the home.

We should tell our children to read biographies of the Salaf and then write about it and ask why they wrote those points especially. The more the children read these books, they will become more encouraged by them and the Salaf will become their role models. Also ask the children the names of the imams of the Salaf.

Teach them sports too, Rasulullah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Teach your children Swimming, Archery and Horseback riding.” They gain many benefits from it, including physical fitness, learning teamwork, and sportsmanship.

  • Abu Bakr Sijistanee compiled his first book at 11 regarding the biography of a great imam and his father was pleased with that.
  • Imam Ahmed would read the musnad of his, which had the collection of 40,000 Ahadith to his children for 12 years.
  • Imam al-Bukhari began compiling his Sahih at the age of 16 and finished at the age of 32.

Age 15 – The Final 7 Years – Advise them
Once your children hit 14, they are probably already mukallaf (full adults Islamically, and accountable for their actions) — this happens at puberty, or at age 15 at the latest.
At this age, you are mostly out of the picture. Children achieve independence; their personalities manifest; they look more to their peers than their parents and families. During these critical years, befriend them, advise them, and do what you can; understand that they are now full adults, and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.
If you worked hard during the last two periods of 7 years, you will already be that trusted confidant, that advisor, that go-to person when they need help or advice. Be part of their lives, and advise them as best you can.

A few etiquette notes taken from a lesson by Abu Khadija Abdul Wahid:

  • Teach your child to not speak until he is permitted to speak.
  • Teach your child not be disruptive around you.
  • If parents are telling the child off, teach your child to not look into your eyes, rather look down.
  • A child should sit with his parents like a student sits with a sheikh, i.e. not raising the feet in front of a sheikh.
  • The father needs to teach his children to serve the guests.
  • Teach your child to seek permission to leave the room. Also when you are out, teach your child to let you through the door first.
  • Teach your children to respect your family and friends.
  • Some parents tell their children not to call them mum or dad but by their names, this is not correct.
  • Sometimes children at 8 are screaming and shouting at home, like babies. This is not correct.
  • Make your children close to you, not distant and put a desire of ilm (knowledge) in them.


Below is a bit of extra info by Abu Talha Dawud Burbank: [(rahimuhullah)]

Imam adh-Dhahabee -rahimahullaah- mentioned in ‘Siyar A`laamin-Nubalaa.’ (10/233), in his biography of aboo Mushir `Abdul-A`laa ibn Mushir ad-Dimashqee:

” Ibn Zanjawayh said: I heard Aboo Mushir say:

“Strictness with a child at an early age will bring about increase in his intellect in later life.”

[ adh-Dhahabee said about Aboo Mushir in his biography in ‘al-Kaashif’:
The Imam, Aboo Mushir al-Ghassaanee, the Shaikh of Shaam.(He narrated) from Sa`eed ibn `Abdil-`Azeez, and (Imam) Maalik; and from him (narrated):Ibn Ma`een, Aboo Haatim, and`Abdur-Rahmaan ibn ar-Ruwaas. He was from the finest of the scholars, and from the most eloquent and correct in speech, and one of those who memorized most. He was threatened with the sword to force him to say that the Qur’an was created, but he refused, so he was imprisoned. He died in Rajab, in the year 218 (H).”]

* Ibnul-Jawzee -rahimahullaah- reported in ‘Dhammul-Hawaa’ (p.116) that Ibraaheem ibn Ishaaq al-Harbee (d.285 H) said:

“Keep your children away from evil companions, before it happens that you have immersed them in, and dyed them with affliction”,

and he said:

“The beginning of the corruption of children comes about from one another.”

[Reference: Dr.Sulaymaan ibn Ibraaheem al-`Aayid’s introduction to ‘Ghareebul-Hadeeth’ of Ibraaheem al-Harbee.


Ibn al-Jawzi rahimahullah said:

“The cure for conceit is to know one’s faults… How can a person have self-conceit when knowing that Imam Ahmed knew one million hadith by heart, and Kahmas ibn al-Hasan used to recite the whole Quran three times a day and Salman al-Taymi prayed Fajr with the same wudhu of ‘Ishaa for forty years.”

Book: Disciplining the soul by Ibn al-Jawzi (d. 597 AH)

May Allah give us the understanding and make it practicable for us all. Ameen



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‘My First Islamic Activity Pack’ — January 18, 2016

‘My First Islamic Activity Pack’

About the Pack:

‘My First Islamic Activity Pack’ is made by and aims to help young children aged 4-8 years to understand themselves and the world around them from a pure Islamic point of view (only authentic resources from the Quran, Hadith and trusted Scholars have been used).

It introduces the correct Islamic Aqeedah with fun yet challenging activities without losing the message; also nurturing a child’s belief and love for Allah and His Messenger and familiarising them to follow evidences.

All topics included are based on Aqeedah, teaching the most beneficial knowledge (Islam) and asking questions that matter most such as ‘Who is you Lord’ and ‘Who is your Prophet’ and ‘What is your religion’. Explaining in simple terms the different types of creation and its purpose, thus leading into subjects such as Science and Geography.

The activities interact with children at their level whilst involving parent/guardian or teacher; a range of activities have been packed to keep any child productively busy in their ‘spare time’ such as letter, number and colour recognition, guided reading, writing, colouring, eye coordination skills, fine motor skills, quizzes, wordsearch games and much more. A must have for any child beginning to study Islam.

*This ‘Islamic Activity Pack’ is proof-read by Al-Madinah University graduate and student of knowledge Abdul-Hakeem @ibnmitchell. May Allah grant him success, Ameen!

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How to Use This Folder:

  1. Print everything out on white A4 paper, put them into a folder.
  2. Read the instructions to your child on each page.
  3. Download the FREE Flashcards on pages 22, 23, 24 and 56.

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25 Reward Charts + Time-Out Steps — January 14, 2016

25 Reward Charts + Time-Out Steps

About the Pack:

The Reward Chart Pack includes 25 fun and exciting charts along with a very effective and straightforward ‘Time-out Step’ guide. Inside you shall find a range of colourful A4 sized charts suitable for both male and female at all ages under 12 years.

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How To Use This Pack:

  1. Print your chosen chart(s)
  2. Get some short term rewards
  3. Think of behaviours you want to introduce, encourage or change
  4. List and add them to your chosen chart(s)
  5. Display chart where visible
  6. Praise child when they achieve the reward and explain what they did good.
    (For full guidelines, view inside the Pack)


What you need:

  • Chosen Reward Charts (printed on paper, card or photopaper)
  • Reward chart stickers or colourful pencils
  • Short term rewards (optional)
  • Parent and child(ren)
  • Patience, perseverance, mercy and lots of dua!


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