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Why School Is NOT The Best Place For Socialising — December 18, 2018

Why School Is NOT The Best Place For Socialising

You did your research, you got the resources, you set up your timetable and you’re ready to begin your homeschool journey and then, your health-carer turns up and the questions arise…

 

‘Why aren’t they in school?

‘Do they mix with other children?’

‘Do you not think they need to experience a classroom environment?’

 

I don’t know who needs to hear this for the hundredth time but…

‘You are the parent, not them!’

 

How you choose to raise your child is your choice and YOU will be accountable!

Most people seem to make bad judgements about homeschoolers due to the manner of education and in particular socialising which is the main topic of what I will be covering in this post in shaa Allaah! I’m sure we all could write essays about this topic.

Now, nobody is saying that there are no social benefits from going to school. I’m sure a child can be social at school but I don’t believe for a second that school is the ultimate BEST place to socialise a child. Please understand the difference! Social development is very important to the homeschooler. If anything, it’s a huge reason why parents opt to homeschool since it allows flexibility and more control over who or what a child is exposed to.

Here are our top reasons (my husband included) why we believe schools are not necessarily the BEST place to socialise a child and Allaah Ta’ala knows best:

  1. Socialising means different things to different people

    As muslims, we dont care about numbers (popularity) we care about truth so one true friend is better than 100 fake friends

  2. A childs confidence does NOT depend on them going to a school

    In fact, there are many school children who lack confidence and social skills. Children at school are also more prone to bullying, peer pressure or some sort of abuse that parents may live to never know

  3. Skills of socialising can be attained from various places

    This includes places such as the home, relatives, other homeschooled children, penpals, mosques, libraries, friends, neighbourhood, youth club, outside of school activities including madrasa, sports, outdoor space such as walks, shopping or trips and many other suitable environments etc

  4. Children at school don’t have much in common

    Schools force children to spend years in the same company of other children who only have one thing in common; age. Now, you may be thinking some children do make friends with other children of similar interests but that only happens after and NOT before they enter the classroom. When a child is accepted into a school, only age and then location is taken into consideration. No other compatibility is taken into consideration such as religion, interests, learning style or level of maturity etc

  5. There is not enough socialising time given to school children

    School children here in the UK spend at least 6-7 hours, 5 days a week at school. They are given 1 hour of that time per day for a lunch break in which they are able to mix with other children. The rest of those long hours are spent in the classroom behind a desk; either listening to the teacher or getting on with work. Teachers won’t let a child socialise in class and from my experience, if caught talking, have said themselves ‘this is not a place for socialising, this is a place for learning’. The amount of time schools take from a childs day does not even allow them enough time to socialise with others outside of school (especially true in UK). I can only imagine how tiring it must be for those who actually manage to accomplish participating in out-of-school activities both guardian and child. I guess you can always wait for school trips which sometimes come once a year or the holiday breaks. Hmmm…

  6. Children don’t always get to sit with whoever they like

    A lot of school teacher’s have this belief that children shouldn’t sit in class with those they feel most comfortable around. I understand that some friends can affect their peers concentration but joining a child with someone they don’t feel safe or comfortable around is uneccessary in my opinion and can discourage a child from wanting to come to school altogether

  7. Teachers impact a child’s confidence

    I hope school teachers realise how serious and real this is especially those who yell & give detention as a way to ‘discipline’ a child which can lead to a child becoming rebellious. A teacher’s role is a huge one in which they are replacing the time loving parents wish they had with their children. Teachers are in a position to make or break a child yet not enough one-to-one time is given to every child which is something a child needs daily to meet their potential.

    Sadly, schools only have one parents evening within the whole year. Are teachers really putting on their real character when parents meet them? Is this one evening enough time to have a good look at your child’s yearly progress? Allaahu aalem.

If you would like to continue the list in the comments, please feel free. I’d love to hear what you think too in shaa Allaah.

Well, it all comes down to this. The decisions YOU make for YOUR family are YOUR right & you dont need peoples approval!

As long as you are not being neglectful and keeping your child from benfiting with others then please do yourself a favour and ignore the judgement people make which they have no knowledge about. People are afraid of what they don’t know! Remember, worrying about what others think about your parenting whether family, friends or a doctor will only hold you back from reaching your own goals as a family.

You may be killing yourself over the opinion or judgement of someone who is not even the one fully responsible for your children.

If you homeschool, good. If you dont, good for you. Remember, you’re the parent, not them, and it’s all about tarbiyyah (cultivation)!

Please take care of yourself and your family first!


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1 – 12 Times Table Wheel Pack — July 6, 2017

1 – 12 Times Table Wheel Pack

About the file:

Let your children and students enjoy learning and revising the 1 – 12 times table with these wheel cut outs in your lessons individually or in groups. An excellent maths resource for children of all ages. Simply download, print (one-sided) and cut out the pdf file in the link below and laminate them for long-term use.

At the end of the file, you will also find a 1 – 12 Times Table Colourful display Poster in shaa Allaah.

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What you need:

  • A4 Plain Paper/Card and colour printer
  • Scissors
  • Laminator and sheets (optional)

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‘Letter of the Week’ Preschool Activity Book + Dot-to-dot Worksheets — August 27, 2016

‘Letter of the Week’ Preschool Activity Book + Dot-to-dot Worksheets

About the Pack:

The ‘Letter of the Week’ Activity Book is designed for preschoolers in order to introduce them to the alphabet. This is a very straight forward and fun way of learning the alphabet that helps encourage preschoolers to develop their fine motor skills and creativity. A great resources to use along with other activities inshAllah.

*If you feel that your toddler is not ready for the Activity Book, don’t worry, we haven’t left you out. Please help yourself to the FREE pre-writing ‘Dot-to-dot’ activity Worksheets where they can practice all they like. Allow your child to use colourful marker pens or scissors and for extra fun for your child, put images at the start and end of each line or zig zag e.g start = toothbrush, end = tooth. (Be sure to laminate worksheets for multiple usage).

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How To Use This Book:

  1. Print everything out on white A4 paper (adjust your printer to ‘borderless’ and one sided OR two sided [recommended])
  2. Bind it at your local office supply
  3. Feel free to use our FREE Complete Preschool Curriculum with this Activity Book

*A copy of the alphabet letters are at the back of the book to use to cut and stick onto all the ‘sorting’ pages

What you need:

  • This Book
  • Preschooler and Parent/Guardian
  • Pencil, rubber, pencil colours, scissors, glue
  • Extras: playdough or something similar

Games and ‘Hands On’ Activities to play with your child:

  1. Cut out letters on sand paper and let your child trace them with their finger
  2. Cut and stick letters, numbers and shapes on sand paper or colourful card (twice) to make matching pairs, then let your child try to match them to the correct pair
  3. Get an alphabet flashcards (preferably pairs) and lay them out on the table/floor and let your child match them together. You can demonstrate examples for them such as showing them what is capital A and what is small a
  4. Get some alphabet blocks or use legos and blocks and cut and stick out letters on them allowing them to explore the letters at free play
  5. Play flashcard games e.g place flashcards around them room and let your child run/skip/hop to them when you shout a letter out, also take the opportunity to practice phonic sounds
  6. Get some letter magnets and allow them to ‘free play’ with them with or without you
  7. Make a number, letter and shape wheel each on a piece of card and on a separate piece of paper make your numbers, letters and shapes then stick them to a peg and ask your child to match it to the correct image

Tips:

  • Always take every opportunity to practice the alphabet even when your busy, make their toys educational i.e letter blocks and magnets
  • Make up an easy to remember rhythm of when pronouncing the letters, e.g “A is for apple ah-ah apple, B is for ball b-b ball.”

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Advise to Fathers on Raising Children — May 13, 2016

Advise to Fathers on Raising Children

DIRECTING THE FATHERS TO GIVE IMPORTANCE TO RAISING THE CHILDREN ISLAMICALLY
Shaykh Abdul-Azeez ibn Baaz

Question:
I have noticed, O eminent Shaykh, that there are many of the fathers who have been negligent in raising their children leaving them to engage in things which are of the highest level of detriment to them. Due to this, I seek from your eminence that you favor us by directing the fathers to give much importance to their children; especially in this time, may Allaah reward you with good.

Answer:
In the name of Allaah the Most Merciful the Bestower of mercy; may prayers and peace from Allaah be upon Allaah’s Messenger, his family, his companions, and those who are guided with his guidance. As to what follows:
This which the questioner mentioned deserves attention, because watching over the children, males and female, and giving them attention and their Islamic cultivation is an affair which is from the most important matters.

The noble Prophet ﷺ said:
كلكم راعٍ وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته، فالرجل راع في أهل بيته ومسؤول عن رعيته، والأمير الذي ولي على الناس راعٍ ومسؤول عن رعيته، والمرأة راعية في بيت زوجها ومسؤولة عن رعيتها، والخادم راعٍ في مال سيده ومسؤول عن رعيته ثم قال: ألا وكلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته
fishingwithdadEach of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The man is a shepherd over his family and he is responsible for his flock. The Ameer who has been placed in charge of the people is a Shepherd, and he is responsible for his flock. The woman is a shepherd within the house of her husband and she is responsible for her flock. The servant is a shepherd over his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock. Then he said: Indeed each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. (Imaam Al-Bukhaaree reported it in his Saheeh as well as others.)
So this great Hadeeth indicates the obligation of giving importance to one’s flock. The greatest of responsibility in that is that of the Imaam who is over the people; and he is the Ameer of the Muslims and their Sultaan. It is obligatory upon him to watch over them regarding all that which contains their rectification and the safeguarding of their religion and giving attention to that which will benefit them in the Dunyaa as well as the hereafter in accordance to his ability and as much as he can. The greatest of that is to give attention to the religion so that they are upright upon it and that they cling to it; and that is by way of performing the obligatory duties and leaving the prohibited, as is obligatory upon everyone who is in charge of the affairs of the people to rules between them with the Sharee’ah of Allaah and to make them hold fast to the legislation of Allaah. And he is not to rule between them with other than the legislation of Allaah.

He is responsible for that as He, the Majestic and High, has stated:
فَوَرَبِّكَ لَنَسْأَلَنَّهُمْ أَجْمَعِيْنَ ٩٢ عَمَّا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ ٩٣

“So, by your Lord (O Muhammad ﷺ), We shall certainly call all of them to account, For all that they used to do.” (Al-Hijr 15:92-93)
Likewise, as in this authentic Hadeeth:
كلكم راعٍ وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته

“Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.”

So he who is placed in charge over the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. We ask Allaah to give the leaders of the Muslims Tawfeeq in all that which contains their rectification and the rectification of the all Muslims.
Likewise, every person is responsible for his household. So the father is responsible for his children and the mother is responsible for her children from the perspective of cultivating them Islamically and commanding them with the good and forbidding them from evil and making them cling to the truth and abandon that which opposes the legislation of Allaah. From that is the affair of the prayer; for it is the supporting pillar of Al-Islaam. So it obligatory upon the father to give attention to his children, and likewise the mother, so that they are upright upon the prayer and so that they safeguard it in the houses of Allaah along with the Muslims.

Allaah the Mighty and Majestic says:
حَافِظُواْ عَلَى الصَّلَوَاتِ والصَّلاَةِ الْوُسْطَى

“Guard strictly (five obligatory) As-Salawaat (the prayers) especially the middle Salat (i.e. the best prayer ‘Asr).” (Al-Baqarah 2:238)

And He, Glorified be He, said:

وَأَقِيمُواْ الصَّلاَةَ وَآتُواْ الزَّكَاةَ وَارْكَعُواْ مَعَ الرَّاكِعِينَ

“And perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), and give Zakât, and Irka’ (i.e. bow down or submit yourselves with obedience to Allaah) along with Ar-Raki’ûn.” (Al-Baqarah 2:43)
He, the Majestic and High, said:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواقُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
“O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones.” (At-Tahrim 66:6)
The parents are included in this.
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواقُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
“O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones.” (At-Tahrim 66:6)
Paying attention to the affair of the prayer is from the reasons for protection from the Fire, for both the parent and the child. Allaah said, addressing his Prophet ﷺ

وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا
“And enjoin As-Salât (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them.” (Ta-Ha 20:132)
The Prophet ﷺ said:

مروا أبناءكم بالصلاة لسبع واضربوهم عليها لعشر وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع
Command your children to pray at seven and beat them concerning it at ten; and separate them in the bed.

So the child, whether male or female, is to be commanded to pray when he reaches seven and beaten concerning it when he reaches ten. This is because at this point he has reached and drawn near to maturity. Then when he attains puberty is becomes individually obligatory and binding upon him; and he deserves, if he abandons it, to be commanded to repent; so if he repents then this is good otherwise he is killed by the leader of the Muslims. So the affair (of the prayer) is major. Hence, it is obligatory upon the fathers and the mothers, the elder brothers of the children, and their uncles to cooperate in this matter and strive hard in rectifying the children and cultivating them Islamically; and fro that is making them hold fast to the prayer and commanding them with it when they reach seven and beating them concerning it when they reach ten and fall short in that. Likewise, they are to be commanded with that which Allaah commands them with from righteousness toward their parents and safeguarding the tongue from abuse, cursing, and lying, and other than that from sins, from that which Allaah the Mighty and Majestic has prohibited. Likewise, that they are prohibited from consuming intoxicants and smoking so that they will not grow up upon this falsehood.

So it is obligatory upon the fathers and mothers to give attention to the children regarding that which benefits them in the Dunyaa and the hereafter, and it is upon them to prohibit them from that which Allaah the Mighty and Majestic has prohibited them from, so that they grow up with a righteous upbringing and so that they will be upright upon the religion of Allaah. So when they reach puberty they will know that which is obligatory upon them and what they are prohibited from and they cultivated upon doing god and upon leaving off evil; then their father, their brother, their mother, and whoever played a role in this good will have the likes of their reward, as the noble Prophet ﷺ said:
من دل على خير فله مثل أجر فاعله

He who directs to good will have the likes of the reward of the one who does it.
This is from the bounty of Allaah the glorified and High. We ask Allaah, on behalf of all, for Tawfeeq and guidance.

Translated by Raha ibn Donald Batts

Source: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/17109

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Log Book – Assessments and Forms — March 1, 2016

Log Book – Assessments and Forms

About the Pack:

This folder pack is an essential for every homeschooling teacher. A Log book full of assessment forms to log in your children’s progress throughout their education as well as the field trips. It covers all the basic subjects such as:

1. English
2. Maths
3. Science
4. Geography
5. Art
6. Physical Education
7. Islamic Studies
8. Arabic
9. Life Skills
10. Field Trips
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How to use the Pack:

  • Download and print it
  • Refer to the links at the end of the pack for marking (if needed)

What you need:

  • This Folder
  • Parent/Teacher/Child
  • Printer and A4 Paper
  • Pen/highlighter.

 

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25 Reward Charts + Time-Out Steps — January 14, 2016

25 Reward Charts + Time-Out Steps

About the Pack:

The Reward Chart Pack includes 25 fun and exciting charts along with a very effective and straightforward ‘Time-out Step’ guide. Inside you shall find a range of colourful A4 sized charts suitable for both male and female at all ages under 12 years.

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How To Use This Pack:

  1. Print your chosen chart(s)
  2. Get some short term rewards
  3. Think of behaviours you want to introduce, encourage or change
  4. List and add them to your chosen chart(s)
  5. Display chart where visible
  6. Praise child when they achieve the reward and explain what they did good.
    (For full guidelines, view inside the Pack)

 

What you need:

  • Chosen Reward Charts (printed on paper, card or photopaper)
  • Reward chart stickers or colourful pencils
  • Short term rewards (optional)
  • Parent and child(ren)
  • Patience, perseverance, mercy and lots of dua!

 

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