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Why School Is NOT The Best Place For Socialising — December 18, 2018

Why School Is NOT The Best Place For Socialising

You did your research, you got the resources, you set up your timetable and you’re ready to begin your homeschool journey and then, your health-carer turns up and the questions arise…

 

‘Why aren’t they in school?

‘Do they mix with other children?’

‘Do you not think they need to experience a classroom environment?’

 

I don’t know who needs to hear this for the hundredth time but…

‘You are the parent, not them!’

 

How you choose to raise your child is your choice and YOU will be accountable!

Most people seem to make bad judgements about homeschoolers due to the manner of education and in particular socialising which is the main topic of what I will be covering in this post in shaa Allaah! I’m sure we all could write essays about this topic.

Now, nobody is saying that there are no social benefits from going to school. I’m sure a child can be social at school but I don’t believe for a second that school is the ultimate BEST place to socialise a child. Please understand the difference! Social development is very important to the homeschooler. If anything, it’s a huge reason why parents opt to homeschool since it allows flexibility and more control over who or what a child is exposed to.

Here are our top reasons (my husband included) why we believe schools are not necessarily the BEST place to socialise a child and Allaah Ta’ala knows best:

  1. Socialising means different things to different people

    As muslims, we dont care about numbers (popularity) we care about truth so one true friend is better than 100 fake friends

  2. A childs confidence does NOT depend on them going to a school

    In fact, there are many school children who lack confidence and social skills. Children at school are also more prone to bullying, peer pressure or some sort of abuse that parents may live to never know

  3. Skills of socialising can be attained from various places

    This includes places such as the home, relatives, other homeschooled children, penpals, mosques, libraries, friends, neighbourhood, youth club, outside of school activities including madrasa, sports, outdoor space such as walks, shopping or trips and many other suitable environments etc

  4. Children at school don’t have much in common

    Schools force children to spend years in the same company of other children who only have one thing in common; age. Now, you may be thinking some children do make friends with other children of similar interests but that only happens after and NOT before they enter the classroom. When a child is accepted into a school, only age and then location is taken into consideration. No other compatibility is taken into consideration such as religion, interests, learning style or level of maturity etc

  5. There is not enough socialising time given to school children

    School children here in the UK spend at least 6-7 hours, 5 days a week at school. They are given 1 hour of that time per day for a lunch break in which they are able to mix with other children. The rest of those long hours are spent in the classroom behind a desk; either listening to the teacher or getting on with work. Teachers won’t let a child socialise in class and from my experience, if caught talking, have said themselves ‘this is not a place for socialising, this is a place for learning’. The amount of time schools take from a childs day does not even allow them enough time to socialise with others outside of school (especially true in UK). I can only imagine how tiring it must be for those who actually manage to accomplish participating in out-of-school activities both guardian and child. I guess you can always wait for school trips which sometimes come once a year or the holiday breaks. Hmmm…

  6. Children don’t always get to sit with whoever they like

    A lot of school teacher’s have this belief that children shouldn’t sit in class with those they feel most comfortable around. I understand that some friends can affect their peers concentration but joining a child with someone they don’t feel safe or comfortable around is uneccessary in my opinion and can discourage a child from wanting to come to school altogether

  7. Teachers impact a child’s confidence

    I hope school teachers realise how serious and real this is especially those who yell & give detention as a way to ‘discipline’ a child which can lead to a child becoming rebellious. A teacher’s role is a huge one in which they are replacing the time loving parents wish they had with their children. Teachers are in a position to make or break a child yet not enough one-to-one time is given to every child which is something a child needs daily to meet their potential.

    Sadly, schools only have one parents evening within the whole year. Are teachers really putting on their real character when parents meet them? Is this one evening enough time to have a good look at your child’s yearly progress? Allaahu aalem.

If you would like to continue the list in the comments, please feel free. I’d love to hear what you think too in shaa Allaah.

Well, it all comes down to this. The decisions YOU make for YOUR family are YOUR right & you dont need peoples approval!

As long as you are not being neglectful and keeping your child from benfiting with others then please do yourself a favour and ignore the judgement people make which they have no knowledge about. People are afraid of what they don’t know! Remember, worrying about what others think about your parenting whether family, friends or a doctor will only hold you back from reaching your own goals as a family.

You may be killing yourself over the opinion or judgement of someone who is not even the one fully responsible for your children.

If you homeschool, good. If you dont, good for you. Remember, you’re the parent, not them, and it’s all about tarbiyyah (cultivation)!

Please take care of yourself and your family first!


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The Colours of My World – Reading Book that Introduces Colours — September 27, 2016

The Colours of My World – Reading Book that Introduces Colours

About the Book:

I don’t know about you but I find it almost impossible to find suitable books for my children that wont use words such as ‘luck’, ‘magic’ and all that sort. I also find the stories in many of these english reading books rather strange and non-beneficial. So I took it upon myself to write my own books on certain topics for my children wa lillaahil-Hamd. Alhamdolillah for homeschooling. This book introduces all the main colours in a fun and poetic way and keeps children engaged and excited. Also, images included are not made by me but were compiled by me. Enjoy!

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*Remember to set your printer to ‘borderless’ and ‘two sided’ for best results inshaAllah.


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Preschool Maths Activity Book (Number Counting) — August 29, 2016

Preschool Maths Activity Book (Number Counting)

About the Pack:

The ‘Preschool Maths’ Activity Book is designed for preschoolers in order to introduce them to numbers. This is a very straight forward and fun way of learning how to count and encourages preschoolers to develop their fine motor skills and creativity. A great resource to begin learning how to count in order.

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Click to download

How To Use This Book:

  1. Print everything out on white A4 paper (adjust your printer to ‘borderless’ and one sided OR two sided [recommended])
  2. Bind it at your local office supply

What you need:

  • This Book
  • Preschooler and Parent/Guardian
  • Pencil, rubber, pencil colours
  • Extras: blocks, legos, counters, playdough or something similar

Games and ‘Hands On’ Activities to play with your child:

  1. Cut out the numbers and shapes on sand paper and let your child trace them with their finger
  2. Cut out letters, numbers and shapes on sand paper or colourful card (twice) to make matching pairs, then let your child try to match them to the correct pair
  3. Get counters (preferably the same type and colourful) and lay them out on the table/floor. Print out numbers 1-20 labelled flashcards and let your child place the correct amount of counters on each card, making sure they count as they go. You can demonstrate examples for them and show them a pattern in counting e.g triangle has 3 sides, square has 4 sides etc. Get your child to look closely at how the counters appear when placed down together
  4. Cut out shapes in pairs (one big and one small) and get them to place the big ones on one pile and the small ones on the other. This will introduce them to the concept of more and less
  5. Use legos and blocks to build towers and get them to count how many they can
  6. Play counting games e.g ‘Duck goose’, place flashcards around them room and let your child run/skip/hop to them when you shout it out
  7. Get some number/shape magnets and allow them to ‘free play’ with them with/without you
  8. Make a number, letter and shape wheel each on a piece of card and on a separate piece of paper make your numbers, letters and shapes then stick them to a peg and ask your child to match it to the correct image

Tips:

  • Always take every opportunity to count, for example counting fingers, counting when taking steps up and down stairs, counting vehicles when outside and so on
  • Use mathematical language, e.g “Look, you have 2 blocks and I have 1, can I have another 1 please?”
  • When counting objects, encourage the child to move the object (they count) to one side as children at this stage are very visual
  • Introduce the number zero ‘0’ and do not overlook this. A good example is by first teaching them how to count 1,2 and 3. Put 1 or 2 objects in their hands and tell them that they have such and such amount of objects, then remove them from the hand and then tell them “Now you have zero objects in your hand”
  • Remember that counting numbers is more important than writing the numbers

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‘Letter of the Week’ Preschool Activity Book + Dot-to-dot Worksheets — August 27, 2016

‘Letter of the Week’ Preschool Activity Book + Dot-to-dot Worksheets

About the Pack:

The ‘Letter of the Week’ Activity Book is designed for preschoolers in order to introduce them to the alphabet. This is a very straight forward and fun way of learning the alphabet that helps encourage preschoolers to develop their fine motor skills and creativity. A great resources to use along with other activities inshAllah.

*If you feel that your toddler is not ready for the Activity Book, don’t worry, we haven’t left you out. Please help yourself to the FREE pre-writing ‘Dot-to-dot’ activity Worksheets where they can practice all they like. Allow your child to use colourful marker pens or scissors and for extra fun for your child, put images at the start and end of each line or zig zag e.g start = toothbrush, end = tooth. (Be sure to laminate worksheets for multiple usage).

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How To Use This Book:

  1. Print everything out on white A4 paper (adjust your printer to ‘borderless’ and one sided OR two sided [recommended])
  2. Bind it at your local office supply
  3. Feel free to use our FREE Complete Preschool Curriculum with this Activity Book

*A copy of the alphabet letters are at the back of the book to use to cut and stick onto all the ‘sorting’ pages

What you need:

  • This Book
  • Preschooler and Parent/Guardian
  • Pencil, rubber, pencil colours, scissors, glue
  • Extras: playdough or something similar

Games and ‘Hands On’ Activities to play with your child:

  1. Cut out letters on sand paper and let your child trace them with their finger
  2. Cut and stick letters, numbers and shapes on sand paper or colourful card (twice) to make matching pairs, then let your child try to match them to the correct pair
  3. Get an alphabet flashcards (preferably pairs) and lay them out on the table/floor and let your child match them together. You can demonstrate examples for them such as showing them what is capital A and what is small a
  4. Get some alphabet blocks or use legos and blocks and cut and stick out letters on them allowing them to explore the letters at free play
  5. Play flashcard games e.g place flashcards around them room and let your child run/skip/hop to them when you shout a letter out, also take the opportunity to practice phonic sounds
  6. Get some letter magnets and allow them to ‘free play’ with them with or without you
  7. Make a number, letter and shape wheel each on a piece of card and on a separate piece of paper make your numbers, letters and shapes then stick them to a peg and ask your child to match it to the correct image

Tips:

  • Always take every opportunity to practice the alphabet even when your busy, make their toys educational i.e letter blocks and magnets
  • Make up an easy to remember rhythm of when pronouncing the letters, e.g “A is for apple ah-ah apple, B is for ball b-b ball.”

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My First Arabic Curriculum — February 16, 2016

My First Arabic Curriculum

About the Pack:

‘My First Arabic Curriculum’ is a complete Toddler’s Curriculum made by UmmAssadHomeSchool.com. This folder is a copy of the original English ‘My First Curriculum’ (also by UmmAssadHomeSchool.com) and translated into the Classical Arabic language (اللغة العربية الفصحى). It has over 50 fun packed and interactive pages, covering all the basic subjects such as English, Maths, Science and even Geography! Some changes have been made to suit the Arabic language. Enjoy!

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How To Use This Folder:

  • Use directly from your computer device, or,
  • Print everything on A4 white paper, put in a folder, or,
  • Use the whole folder as Flashcards.
  • Follow the instructions per page
  • After child reads the numbers/letters, they only need to focus on the images and pronunciation, not writing
  • Read the Arabic from right to left.

What you need:

  • This Folder
  • Our Free Flashcards: Alphabet; Mini, Picture, Numbers
  • Parent/Guardian, Child
  • Patience, Mercy, Focus and Dua!

Optional:


 

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‘My First Islamic Activity Pack’ — January 18, 2016

‘My First Islamic Activity Pack’

About the Pack:

‘My First Islamic Activity Pack’ is made by UmmAssadHomeschool.com and aims to help young children aged 4-8 years to understand themselves and the world around them from a pure Islamic point of view (only authentic resources from the Quran, Hadith and trusted Scholars have been used).

It introduces the correct Islamic Aqeedah with fun yet challenging activities without losing the message; also nurturing a child’s belief and love for Allah and His Messenger and familiarising them to follow evidences.

All topics included are based on Aqeedah, teaching the most beneficial knowledge (Islam) and asking questions that matter most such as ‘Who is you Lord’ and ‘Who is your Prophet’ and ‘What is your religion’. Explaining in simple terms the different types of creation and its purpose, thus leading into subjects such as Science and Geography.

The activities interact with children at their level whilst involving parent/guardian or teacher; a range of activities have been packed to keep any child productively busy in their ‘spare time’ such as letter, number and colour recognition, guided reading, writing, colouring, eye coordination skills, fine motor skills, quizzes, wordsearch games and much more. A must have for any child beginning to study Islam.

*This ‘Islamic Activity Pack’ is proof-read by Al-Madinah University graduate and student of knowledge Abdul-Hakeem @ibnmitchell. May Allah grant him success, Ameen!

Click to download

How to Use This Folder:

  1. Print everything out on white A4 paper, put them into a folder.
  2. Read the instructions to your child on each page.
  3. Download the FREE Flashcards on pages 22, 23, 24 and 56.

What you need:

Recommended:

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‘My First Curriculum’ Pack — January 10, 2016

‘My First Curriculum’ Pack

About the Pack:
‘My First Curriculum’ is a complete Toddler’s Curriculum Pack made by UmmAssadHomeSchool. With over 50 fun packed and interactive pages, this folder is sure to bring you and your children lots of joy and educational benefits throughout; Covering all the basic subjects such as English, Maths, Science and Geography.

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Click to download

How To Use This Folder:

Choice is yours!

  1. Work directly from your computer or,
  2. Print everything out, put them in folder pockets and then into a ring binder folder.

What you need:

  • This Folder
  • Parent/Guardian
  • Toddler
  • Patience, Mercy, Focus and Dua!

 

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