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Why School Is NOT The Best Place For Socialising — December 18, 2018

Why School Is NOT The Best Place For Socialising

You did your research, you got the resources, you set up your timetable and you’re ready to begin your homeschool journey and then, your health-carer turns up and the questions arise…

 

‘Why aren’t they in school?

‘Do they mix with other children?’

‘Do you not think they need to experience a classroom environment?’

 

I don’t know who needs to hear this for the hundredth time but…

‘You are the parent, not them!’

 

How you choose to raise your child is your choice and YOU will be accountable!

Most people seem to make bad judgements about homeschoolers due to the manner of education and in particular socialising which is the main topic of what I will be covering in this post in shaa Allaah! I’m sure we all could write essays about this topic.

Now, nobody is saying that there are no social benefits from going to school. I’m sure a child can be social at school but I don’t believe for a second that school is the ultimate BEST place to socialise a child. Please understand the difference! Social development is very important to the homeschooler. If anything, it’s a huge reason why parents opt to homeschool since it allows flexibility and more control over who or what a child is exposed to.

Here are our top reasons (my husband included) why we believe schools are not necessarily the BEST place to socialise a child and Allaah Ta’ala knows best:

  1. Socialising means different things to different people

    As muslims, we dont care about numbers (popularity) we care about truth so one true friend is better than 100 fake friends

  2. A childs confidence does NOT depend on them going to a school

    In fact, there are many school children who lack confidence and social skills. Children at school are also more prone to bullying, peer pressure or some sort of abuse that parents may live to never know

  3. Skills of socialising can be attained from various places

    This includes places such as the home, relatives, other homeschooled children, penpals, mosques, libraries, friends, neighbourhood, youth club, outside of school activities including madrasa, sports, outdoor space such as walks, shopping or trips and many other suitable environments etc

  4. Children at school don’t have much in common

    Schools force children to spend years in the same company of other children who only have one thing in common; age. Now, you may be thinking some children do make friends with other children of similar interests but that only happens after and NOT before they enter the classroom. When a child is accepted into a school, only age and then location is taken into consideration. No other compatibility is taken into consideration such as religion, interests, learning style or level of maturity etc

  5. There is not enough socialising time given to school children

    School children here in the UK spend at least 6-7 hours, 5 days a week at school. They are given 1 hour of that time per day for a lunch break in which they are able to mix with other children. The rest of those long hours are spent in the classroom behind a desk; either listening to the teacher or getting on with work. Teachers won’t let a child socialise in class and from my experience, if caught talking, have said themselves ‘this is not a place for socialising, this is a place for learning’. The amount of time schools take from a childs day does not even allow them enough time to socialise with others outside of school (especially true in UK). I can only imagine how tiring it must be for those who actually manage to accomplish participating in out-of-school activities both guardian and child. I guess you can always wait for school trips which sometimes come once a year or the holiday breaks. Hmmm…

  6. Children don’t always get to sit with whoever they like

    A lot of school teacher’s have this belief that children shouldn’t sit in class with those they feel most comfortable around. I understand that some friends can affect their peers concentration but joining a child with someone they don’t feel safe or comfortable around is uneccessary in my opinion and can discourage a child from wanting to come to school altogether

  7. Teachers impact a child’s confidence

    I hope school teachers realise how serious and real this is especially those who yell & give detention as a way to ‘discipline’ a child which can lead to a child becoming rebellious. A teacher’s role is a huge one in which they are replacing the time loving parents wish they had with their children. Teachers are in a position to make or break a child yet not enough one-to-one time is given to every child which is something a child needs daily to meet their potential.

    Sadly, schools only have one parents evening within the whole year. Are teachers really putting on their real character when parents meet them? Is this one evening enough time to have a good look at your child’s yearly progress? Allaahu aalem.

If you would like to continue the list in the comments, please feel free. I’d love to hear what you think too in shaa Allaah.

Well, it all comes down to this. The decisions YOU make for YOUR family are YOUR right & you dont need peoples approval!

As long as you are not being neglectful and keeping your child from benfiting with others then please do yourself a favour and ignore the judgement people make which they have no knowledge about. People are afraid of what they don’t know! Remember, worrying about what others think about your parenting whether family, friends or a doctor will only hold you back from reaching your own goals as a family.

You may be killing yourself over the opinion or judgement of someone who is not even the one fully responsible for your children.

If you homeschool, good. If you dont, good for you. Remember, you’re the parent, not them, and it’s all about tarbiyyah (cultivation)!

Please take care of yourself and your family first!


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‘Letter of the Week’ Preschool Activity Book + Dot-to-dot Worksheets — August 27, 2016

‘Letter of the Week’ Preschool Activity Book + Dot-to-dot Worksheets

About the Pack:

The ‘Letter of the Week’ Activity Book is designed for preschoolers in order to introduce them to the alphabet. This is a very straight forward and fun way of learning the alphabet that helps encourage preschoolers to develop their fine motor skills and creativity. A great resources to use along with other activities inshAllah.

*If you feel that your toddler is not ready for the Activity Book, don’t worry, we haven’t left you out. Please help yourself to the FREE pre-writing ‘Dot-to-dot’ activity Worksheets where they can practice all they like. Allow your child to use colourful marker pens or scissors and for extra fun for your child, put images at the start and end of each line or zig zag e.g start = toothbrush, end = tooth. (Be sure to laminate worksheets for multiple usage).

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How To Use This Book:

  1. Print everything out on white A4 paper (adjust your printer to ‘borderless’ and one sided OR two sided [recommended])
  2. Bind it at your local office supply
  3. Feel free to use our FREE Complete Preschool Curriculum with this Activity Book

*A copy of the alphabet letters are at the back of the book to use to cut and stick onto all the ‘sorting’ pages

What you need:

  • This Book
  • Preschooler and Parent/Guardian
  • Pencil, rubber, pencil colours, scissors, glue
  • Extras: playdough or something similar

Games and ‘Hands On’ Activities to play with your child:

  1. Cut out letters on sand paper and let your child trace them with their finger
  2. Cut and stick letters, numbers and shapes on sand paper or colourful card (twice) to make matching pairs, then let your child try to match them to the correct pair
  3. Get an alphabet flashcards (preferably pairs) and lay them out on the table/floor and let your child match them together. You can demonstrate examples for them such as showing them what is capital A and what is small a
  4. Get some alphabet blocks or use legos and blocks and cut and stick out letters on them allowing them to explore the letters at free play
  5. Play flashcard games e.g place flashcards around them room and let your child run/skip/hop to them when you shout a letter out, also take the opportunity to practice phonic sounds
  6. Get some letter magnets and allow them to ‘free play’ with them with or without you
  7. Make a number, letter and shape wheel each on a piece of card and on a separate piece of paper make your numbers, letters and shapes then stick them to a peg and ask your child to match it to the correct image

Tips:

  • Always take every opportunity to practice the alphabet even when your busy, make their toys educational i.e letter blocks and magnets
  • Make up an easy to remember rhythm of when pronouncing the letters, e.g “A is for apple ah-ah apple, B is for ball b-b ball.”

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Homeschool Planner 300+ Pages — June 6, 2016

Homeschool Planner 300+ Pages

The Homeschool Planner 300+ Pages is here and
it’s time to start planning!


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ABOUT THE PACK:

So you’ve heard it all before, successful homeschooling starts with being organised and planning ahead and if you fail to plan then you plan to fail.

This Homeschool Planner has all you need and more. With 300+ pages plus 20 front covers to choose from, this planner may be the LAST you’ll ever need inshaAllah and here are the reasons why:

1. It’s FREE – If you’re like me then you’ve probably browsed high and low trying to find the most cost effective Homeschool Planner out there, only to find that they are too high in price or just don’t suit your homeschooling anyway. With this planner, you no longer need to worry about spending a penny at all. Plus forget about waiting last minute to purchase a new one for the coming year. Who wants to wait last minute to plan ahead. Which brings me to my next point!

2. It’s Flexible – You don’t need to wait for the next years planner to become available weeks or even days before. That’s right! Say goodbye to last minute planning because this planner not only allows you to log in all your homeschool essentials, but it also gives you the option to input the date you choose with the provided spaces inside. All you need is a calendar which you will find inside for the past and future years to come both Gregorian AND Islamic inshaAllah.

3. It’s For You – Because we care so much for our homeschool parents and know the importance of being organised, we especially designed this planner to suit most homeschoolers needs. There’s space to write your thoughts and to do/wish lists just for you and reminders to keep you going! And not everybody has the same taste in colours and style so as a bonus, you will find a selection of ‘Front Covers’ to choose from for your planner to suit your personality. You are not just a homeschooler, you are an amazing parent too and so much more so embrace that.


What’s Inside the Planner:

  • About Me Section: Your personal info, life goals, notepad, routine/schedule sheets
  • Calendar for both Gregorian and Islamic for 2016, 2017 and 2018 (Dates are an estimate and need to be double checked e.g, Eid)
  • Important Dates in the Islamic Calendar
  • Contacts
  • About My Homeschooling
  • About My Students
  • Attendance/Absence Forms
  • Homeschool/General Rules and Discipline Section
  • Curriculum/Resources List
  • Subjects and its Contents of Study: English, Maths and Science years 1-6
  • Lesson Duration Logging
  • Supplies List
  • Year at a Glance
  • Month at a Glance x12 (with inspiring Islamic reminders)
  • Weekly Lesson Timetables x40
  • Field Trip Planning
  • One-to-One Time Forms
  • Homework Tracker
  • Tests Tracker
  • Book Logging
  • Meal-time Planning
  • Check Lists/Log/Track Sheets
  • Notes
  • To Do Lists
  • Beautiful Islamic Reminders Throughout
    and much more!

What you need:

  • A4 white paper, printer (At least 155 Sheets)
  • Colour Printer
  • Local Office Supply (to Bind the folder)
  • Pens, Highlighters

How to Use the Pack:

  1. Print the full Homeschool Planner Adjust your printer settings to: A4 and ‘Borderless’, colour, two sides (back to back). The planner is set for 1 or 2 students (for more than one student, print more sheets on the following; About my students, Attendance Form, Lesson Duration, Test Tracker and Book Log. For extra sheets elsewhere, print according to your needs.
  2. Choose a front cover from the ’20 Front Covers’ making sure you adjust your printing settings on the selected page only (use card or laminate it for best results)
  3. Index tabs (optional), Use the content page at the beginning of your planner for guidance.
    Option 1: Change the content to suit your needs, name the coloured tabs on the content page according to your needs (Make sure you adjust the folder according to your content list too. Bear in mind; Every section begins with a ‘Reminder’ page and ends with a ‘Notes’ page)
    Option 2: Keep the content of the planner and use it as it is.
    Now, Print the tabs on card, cut out each tab, sellotape each tab to the correct section (according to your chosen content) upon its ‘Reminder Page’.
  4. Bind it at your local office supply shop, this should cost you around £5.
  5. Extras: Reminder Cards. These are mini size poster cards with all the reminders included in the planner. Simply print these on card and use as reminders for yourself or others.

Below are a few examples of How to use the Timetables (click the image to enlarge):

Single Students (Horizontal/Vertical):

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Multiple Students (Horizontal/Vertical):

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Useful websites to help with Planning:


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  1. The Homeschool Planner:Screen Shot 2016-05-24 at 20.46.49
  2. Index Tabs – Optional
  3. 20 Front Covers
  4. Reminder Cards – Optional

*If you are having any difficulty deciding how you would like to print your planner, please don’t hesitate to contact us with the following information and we will try our best to personalise a planner according to your needs:

  1. Name of the Planner design you would like (i.e, Floral, Zigzags or Colourful Diamonds)
  2. How many children you intend to homeschool
  3. Include any extra sheets you require and how many
  4. One Front Cover of your choice
  5. Optional – If you would like to keep or change the content order

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Log Book – Assessments and Forms — March 1, 2016

Log Book – Assessments and Forms

About the Pack:

This folder pack is an essential for every homeschooling teacher. A Log book full of assessment forms to log in your children’s progress throughout their education as well as the field trips. It covers all the basic subjects such as:

1. English
2. Maths
3. Science
4. Geography
5. Art
6. Physical Education
7. Islamic Studies
8. Arabic
9. Life Skills
10. Field Trips
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How to use the Pack:

  • Download and print it
  • Refer to the links at the end of the pack for marking (if needed)

What you need:

  • This Folder
  • Parent/Teacher/Child
  • Printer and A4 Paper
  • Pen/highlighter.

 

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How the Salaf Raised Their Children — February 25, 2016

How the Salaf Raised Their Children

On the subject of raising children, Ali ibn Abi Taalib (Radhi Allahu ‘anhu) said

“Play with them for the first 7 years (of their life); then teach them for the next 7 years; then advise them for the next 7 years (and after that).”

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How the Salaf Raised Their Children
First 7 Years – Play with them
In the first 7 years, your goal is to build a strong connection with your child. This is the foundation, the base from which your relationship with them grows. If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging.
If you have young children, this (first 7 years) is the time to roll up your sleeves and invest, heavily, in yours and their future. In fact, you will be rewarded for all the righteous progeny that survives you, not just children, until the Day of Judgement. Play with your children, teach them Islam, teach them to have the best of manners but make the learning easy and don’t be harsh with them.

7-14 Years – Teach them
Once children reach 7, they are ready to learn. This is the time they are sponges, ready to soak up anything and everything you tell them, teach them, show them, and do in front of them. If you built that solid foundation in ages 0-7, they are now more than willing and happy to learn from you.

This is the time to teach them everything — Aqeedah, halaal and haraam, fiqh, all the things they need to know to survive throughout their life. Qur’an and seerah are also very important; as one prominent tabi’een said, “we learned seerah (frequently and in details) from our parents the way we learned Qur’an.”

Tell your children to study the deen first and then they can do their homework afterwards because the deen is the priority. Read and memorise the deen every day.

We should attach our hearts to the ulama (Scholars) and we should see them and take our children to see them, before they pass away.

Make your children tulaab and take them to the masjid and keep them from bad company. When they go to the masjid, tell them to always take their notepads even if there’s no lesson on, just in case they hear a benefit. You shouldn’t just leave them on the streets or schools, rather you give them Tarbiyyah of the Sunnah and the staying away from Bidah. You shouldn’t always keep them inside the home.

We should tell our children to read biographies of the Salaf and then write about it and ask why they wrote those points especially. The more the children read these books, they will become more encouraged by them and the Salaf will become their role models. Also ask the children the names of the imams of the Salaf.

Teach them sports too, Rasulullah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Teach your children Swimming, Archery and Horseback riding.” They gain many benefits from it, including physical fitness, learning teamwork, and sportsmanship.

  • Abu Bakr Sijistanee compiled his first book at 11 regarding the biography of a great imam and his father was pleased with that.
  • Imam Ahmed would read the musnad of his, which had the collection of 40,000 Ahadith to his children for 12 years.
  • Imam al-Bukhari began compiling his Sahih at the age of 16 and finished at the age of 32.

Age 15 – The Final 7 Years – Advise them
Once your children hit 14, they are probably already mukallaf (full adults Islamically, and accountable for their actions) — this happens at puberty, or at age 15 at the latest.
At this age, you are mostly out of the picture. Children achieve independence; their personalities manifest; they look more to their peers than their parents and families. During these critical years, befriend them, advise them, and do what you can; understand that they are now full adults, and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.
If you worked hard during the last two periods of 7 years, you will already be that trusted confidant, that advisor, that go-to person when they need help or advice. Be part of their lives, and advise them as best you can.


A few etiquette notes taken from a lesson by Abu Khadija Abdul Wahid:

  • Teach your child to not speak until he is permitted to speak.
  • Teach your child not be disruptive around you.
  • If parents are telling the child off, teach your child to not look into your eyes, rather look down.
  • A child should sit with his parents like a student sits with a sheikh, i.e. not raising the feet in front of a sheikh.
  • The father needs to teach his children to serve the guests.
  • Teach your child to seek permission to leave the room. Also when you are out, teach your child to let you through the door first.
  • Teach your children to respect your family and friends.
  • Some parents tell their children not to call them mum or dad but by their names, this is not correct.
  • Sometimes children at 8 are screaming and shouting at home, like babies. This is not correct.
  • Make your children close to you, not distant and put a desire of ilm (knowledge) in them.

 

Below is a bit of extra info by Abu Talha Dawud Burbank: [(rahimuhullah)]

Imam adh-Dhahabee -rahimahullaah- mentioned in ‘Siyar A`laamin-Nubalaa.’ (10/233), in his biography of aboo Mushir `Abdul-A`laa ibn Mushir ad-Dimashqee:

” Ibn Zanjawayh said: I heard Aboo Mushir say:

“Strictness with a child at an early age will bring about increase in his intellect in later life.”

[ adh-Dhahabee said about Aboo Mushir in his biography in ‘al-Kaashif’:
The Imam, Aboo Mushir al-Ghassaanee, the Shaikh of Shaam.(He narrated) from Sa`eed ibn `Abdil-`Azeez, and (Imam) Maalik; and from him (narrated):Ibn Ma`een, Aboo Haatim, and`Abdur-Rahmaan ibn ar-Ruwaas. He was from the finest of the scholars, and from the most eloquent and correct in speech, and one of those who memorized most. He was threatened with the sword to force him to say that the Qur’an was created, but he refused, so he was imprisoned. He died in Rajab, in the year 218 (H).”]

* Ibnul-Jawzee -rahimahullaah- reported in ‘Dhammul-Hawaa’ (p.116) that Ibraaheem ibn Ishaaq al-Harbee (d.285 H) said:

“Keep your children away from evil companions, before it happens that you have immersed them in, and dyed them with affliction”,

and he said:

“The beginning of the corruption of children comes about from one another.”

[Reference: Dr.Sulaymaan ibn Ibraaheem al-`Aayid’s introduction to ‘Ghareebul-Hadeeth’ of Ibraaheem al-Harbee.

Note:

Ibn al-Jawzi rahimahullah said:

“The cure for conceit is to know one’s faults… How can a person have self-conceit when knowing that Imam Ahmed knew one million hadith by heart, and Kahmas ibn al-Hasan used to recite the whole Quran three times a day and Salman al-Taymi prayed Fajr with the same wudhu of ‘Ishaa for forty years.”

Book: Disciplining the soul by Ibn al-Jawzi (d. 597 AH)

May Allah give us the understanding and make it practicable for us all. Ameen

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25 Reward Charts + Time-Out Steps — January 14, 2016

25 Reward Charts + Time-Out Steps

About the Pack:

The Reward Chart Pack includes 25 fun and exciting charts along with a very effective and straightforward ‘Time-out Step’ guide. Inside you shall find a range of colourful A4 sized charts suitable for both male and female at all ages under 12 years.

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How To Use This Pack:

  1. Print your chosen chart(s)
  2. Get some short term rewards
  3. Think of behaviours you want to introduce, encourage or change
  4. List and add them to your chosen chart(s)
  5. Display chart where visible
  6. Praise child when they achieve the reward and explain what they did good.
    (For full guidelines, view inside the Pack)

 

What you need:

  • Chosen Reward Charts (printed on paper, card or photopaper)
  • Reward chart stickers or colourful pencils
  • Short term rewards (optional)
  • Parent and child(ren)
  • Patience, perseverance, mercy and lots of dua!

 

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